Xu: People who live a quiet life all have these five characteristics.

Some time ago, I made a hot search in Weibo. On the program "King of Cross-border Songs", she and Li appeared on the same stage again, recreating the scene in the TV series "Carry Love to the End", which is simply a romantic memory killing for twenty years.

I have to say that I have always admired Xu's lifestyle. She is an actress, but unlike other actors, she is busy making movies and making announcements. She is a director, but she is not limited to one type of film. She made literary films and tried to make commercial films. Sometimes she plays calligraphy, sometimes she learns sewing, so she lives a thriving life and lives the life she wants.

Xu's lifestyle is really enviable and inspiring. If you want to look like her and live a high life, you might as well learn these five points from her.

1. Be loyal to your heart

In the face of many people's remarks that "women are married", Xu expressed his helplessness. From the age of 30, she was questioned about getting married. Until now, she thinks this question is ridiculous.

She and Huang Lixing have been together for seven years, and they have maintained a stable relationship, but they have never cared about the marriage documents.

Many people say that she is an unmarried person. In her own words, she is not an unmarried person, but a "marriage indifference". In her opinion, it doesn't matter whether you are married or not, as long as that state makes you feel happy, it is something to congratulate.

Dong Qing once asked her on the Reader program: "Is it your own choice to just fall in love and not get married?"

Xu's answer is: "I think everything is fine now. It can be said that 100 will not become 120 because of marriage, that's all. "

For marriage, she is loyal to her heart. Will not get married in a hurry because of external pressure; Not for promises, not for certificates. What kind of state she feels is happier, she will get along with what kind of mode.

In fact, being questioned and opposed by others does not mean that you are wrong, and you don't have to change your original intention immediately. There are many couples in the entertainment circle, such as Jason from Nana, Max Zhang from Ada Choi and Jie Kaixiu from Alyssa Chia. At first, they were not valued by the outside world. Now that they have been married for many years, they still love each other as before, which is enviable.

You won't know whether the shoes fit or not until you put them on. So is life. What kind of people, what kind of way to get along, only you know best.

In life, there are always some kind reminders from well-meaning people, and there are also some experiences from experienced people. You can learn from others' experience appropriately, but you should still be loyal to your heart. Because, knowing yourself, only you know what you want best.

2. Dare to try

As long as it is interesting, Xu dares to try.

As an actress, she appeared in movies and TV series and won many awards. She is a good actress worthy of praise.

As a director, she made three literary films and two commercial films, all of which achieved good results, becoming the first female directors in China with a box office of over 100 million yuan.

She worked as a tailor and made hundreds of jewelry bags with flying needles, calling herself a "professional tailor and amateur actress".

She likes painting. At the beginning of last year, she began to practice painting with a brush every day. Just two months ago, she boarded a hot search in Weibo because of her excellent watercolors.

It is because she dares to try that she leads a colorful life. It is precisely because she dares to try that she has made more achievements in her career.

I often hear friends around me say, "I want to learn to write, but I'm afraid I can't write;" I want to learn to drive, but I am worried that my sense of direction is not good enough; I want to open a micro store, but I am worried that I have no experience ... "That's it, they are worried about this and that. In the end, they clamored for nothing.

In fact, nothing is smooth sailing, otherwise, anyone can succeed. There are two words between "thinking" and "getting", that is "doing". If you are interested in something, you dare to try it. Otherwise, you will never know what you can do, and you will lose many possibilities in other fields.

Don't care what others think

Last year's round table invited both Xu and Jiang. Jiang said that she hated being labeled as a talented woman, but Xu didn't care. She said, "I don't care what they call it."

In the face of others' incomprehension, Xu also laughed it off. She said, "How ordinary would you be if everyone understood you?"

When you care too much about other people's opinions, it is easy to fall into self-denial because of other people's negative comments, and feel that this is not good enough and that is not good enough.

If you want to convince those who oppose you and try your best to defend yourself, it will only waste your time and energy unnecessarily.

We can't get everyone's approval, nor can we satisfy everyone. You don't have to care too much about other people's opinions, you don't have to argue with others to prove yourself, and you don't have to get along with others to cater to others and change your inherent lifestyle.

Confident enough

In the program "School Roundtable", Jiang said that she was anxious about getting married. She said that she is still the chosen target in the gender market. Xu Jinglei was surprised and said, "You should choose them."

Then, Tao asked Jiang and Xu, what would men do if a younger and more beautiful girl appeared beside the two female guests?

Xu said: "I won't unless I think beauty and youth are the only advantages, unless my partner is superficial enough to only look at appearance and age." No one kidnapped us, but we kidnapped ourselves. "

Xu's answer makes people feel full of confidence. She has enough confidence in herself. She won't be upset because she is not as good as others in appearance and age, because she has her own unique charm, that is, her talent.

A confident person can always exude a charm from the inside out. On the contrary, if you always feel that you can't do it, you will only put yourself in a negative state and be depressed in front of others. And when I do things, I will easily deny myself because of a little setback.

So, be confident. Confident people tend to be more elegant and leave a good impression on others. Confident people will also be more active in their careers, strive for more opportunities and achieve more results.

5. Face your shortcomings calmly.

Last year, director Xu's Kidnapper was questioned. She said frankly, "This is my level."

I think, few people can face their shortcomings as frankly as Xu. Most people either fall into the depression of inferiority or find various reasons to cover up their shortcomings.

This is more admirable than hiding your shortcomings and admitting them generously.

When we find ourselves inferior to others, we don't have to feel depressed, let alone fall into self-denial. In fact, each of us can't be perfect, and we all have strengths and weaknesses. It may not be as good as others in this field, but it may be better than others in other fields.

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