Your mother is in hospital. Why should I take money to see a doctor? What did the husband's words reveal?

A few days ago, I watched an episode of Qipa Shuo. Professor Xue Zhaofeng, a famous economist, analyzed China's marriage model from the perspective of economics. I am interested in his views.

He said: "In marriage, men and women pay different resources, play different roles and have different rhythms of time. Women who want to have children will pay early, and men will take responsibility later. One party sows hard and the other is responsible for harvesting. The people behind will be more likely to lick the people in front. "

In other words, it is easy for men to take advantage of women in marriage.

From the perspective of marriage, what he said is very reasonable. Therefore, women have come up with a series of methods to ensure marriage.

The most important thing in this way is to ask men to provide material security. Because feelings are invisible and intangible, only real money can give people a sense of security.

The contradiction caused by this practice is also obvious. Many men think that women are too materialistic and realistic.

Actually, it is not. Let's tell a story and see where the responsibilities of both men and women in marriage lie.

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Xiaoli was depressed for a long time, on the one hand, because her mother was seriously ill in hospital, on the other hand, she was ruthlessly disappointed with her husband.

Xiaoli and her husband have been married for 7 years. At the beginning, she married her husband because she took a fancy to his honest duty and was a trustworthy man. After years of marriage, the relationship between husband and wife is very harmonious. The only thing that makes Xiaoli feel uncomfortable is that men value money.

After two people get married, each has a job. But when it comes to who controls the family's economic power, the two have an argument.

Xiaoli wanted to manage the money at home, because women were afraid that the money in men's pockets would go bad outside. But the husband said nothing and let him take charge of the family's money. Both of them refused to give in and quarreled. Finally, we had to negotiate and supervise each other, and everyone had to report every sum of money spent to each other.

Because of this, Xiaoli has been worried for a long time. But then her husband didn't spend money or deteriorate, and Xiaoli didn't complain.

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A few days ago, Xiaoli's mother had a heart attack and her family was sent to the hospital. The doctor checked it and told Xiaoli that the patient needed coronary artery bypass surgery and needed to prepare for the operation at a cost of 654.38 million yuan.

Xiaoli is an only child, and her parents' money doesn't add up that much, leaving tens of thousands of dollars. Xiaoli and her husband discussed that they should take out their savings to see their parents.

I thought it was a common thing, but Xiaoli's husband refused.

The man said plausibly, "I basically earned all that money." Why should I take it to see your mother? " As a son-in-law, I have no obligation to treat my mother-in-law and provide for the elderly! "

Xiaoli couldn't believe what she heard. She said with a grain of salt: "Then your father spent 50,000 yuan in hospital last year, which was also spent by us. Why don't you say something? "

The man still disagreed: "that's my dad, so I naturally want to see him." And you have married into our family, that is, our family. Don't always think about your family! "

Xiaoli was shaking with anger at his unreasonable troubles. "Well, even if my parents borrowed the money, do you think it's okay?"

The man didn't say no: "No! What did you borrow? Can they return it? I don't agree! "

Xiaoli was so angry that she began to cry. Finally, the man still refused to pay the doctor's mother-in-law It was Xiaoli who borrowed money from a friend to see her mother.

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After that, Xiaoli thought about it while taking care of her mother. The more she thinks about it, the more wronged she becomes. She has done so much for this family and is busy every day. But his mother was ill in hospital, and the man didn't want to pay. Does he still have me in mind?

Xiaoli began to cry.

So, does the son-in-law have the obligation to support his father-in-law?

It is true that the law only stipulates that children have the obligation to support the elderly, but does not stipulate in detail that son-in-law must support his parents-in-law.

Then we can think about it from another angle. Can a daughter-in-law not support her parents-in-law?

Married couples, no matter who earns money, belong to the joint property of husband and wife. Why do they only treat their parents-in-law, not their parents-in-law?

The most annoying thing in this world is the "double-labeled dog". You can take care of my parents, and our money can help my parents to see a doctor and support the elderly. But you must never go to see a doctor or support your parents.

Every "double dog" is full of darkness and selfishness.

Meeting such a person, let alone getting married, makes you sick.

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How can a woman judge whether a man loves you?

It depends on two points: one is that he is willing to spend money for you, and the other is that he is willing to marry you. Everything else is empty talk.

A man who really loves you won't haggle over money with you. How can you be sure of a man who is unwilling to spend money for you and care for your parents?

This society has always demanded more of women than men.

When a woman gets married, she has to take care of her family, get pregnant and have children. If you don't have a job, she will say that you are lazy. If you work outside, she will say that you don't care about your family.

It is too difficult for women to survive in this social environment.

Some people say, what kind of woman is suitable for working at home full time? It is the kind of woman whose husband recognizes the workload of taking care of the baby and doing housework, and is willing to hand over all the money you earn.

Otherwise, you are not a pampered full-time wife, but a free full-time nanny without family status.

If a man haggles with you all day and divides "the money I earn and the money you earn", then you have to make money and never take care of the baby at home full time.

Whether a man loves his wife or not can also be seen from his attitude towards his parents-in-law.

A man who refuses to take care of his parents-in-law and thinks he has no obligation to provide for the elderly must be selfish and irresponsible. His love for his wife is also questionable.

The most reliable and trustworthy man is the one who regards his wife's parents as filial men. And such a man has also gained the double return and love of a woman.