Children's character of "staying at home and going out" was originally related to their parents, but it is too late to change it now.

The mouse carries a gun-crossing the nest is a two-part allegorical saying, which means that someone is fierce to his own people, loves to lose his temper, and is gentle with outsiders, and dare not lose his temper. It means that a person is strong inside and weak outside.

This word is put on children, which means that children are the king of the family, easily lose their temper, look ugly, and even beat and scold their families; But when you get outside, you become timid, others can't fight back, and you don't know how to talk to someone when you are robbed. ...

In fact, this is a common phenomenon, not only many children, but also many adults.

Why should we cultivate a child's character of "staying at home and going out"? I think there are several reasons:

It is said that parents are role models for children. If parents are like this in interpersonal relationships: they always please outsiders and dare not offend relatives, while friends, colleagues and leaders are always angry with their loved ones and children at home, then children will follow suit and be angry with their families, but they dare not be angry with others.

In life, we will find that all children who spoil and grow up are "cruel and overbearing" to their families. Why? Because when you lose your temper and cry, everyone will meet your requirements. In the long run, children will know that they are the best magic weapon to threaten their families, so it is natural to be bullied at home.

Outside, no one will be as obedient as their parents and family. Knowing that everything they do at home is invalid, of course they won't use it.

Home is the most secure place for every child, and children are also the most relaxed at home, so many emotions will be unconsciously vented.

But outside, because I don't know how to get along with people and what is right, I become particularly insecure, so I will choose silence or escape.

Therefore, if your child also has the problem of "lying in the nest", you must find the reasons from these three aspects. In addition to setting an example by yourself, we should also prevent doting, and usually give children more opportunities to get along with friends and improve their social skills.

Of course, we don't teach children to "cross in the nest" and we don't want to guide them to "cross outside the nest". After all, doing "Xiong Haizi" outside is not what we want to see. Mainly to teach children the ability to communicate with others and know how to communicate with family and friends. You can't be willful at any time.