Revisiting the first half of my life, why is Tang Jing the real protagonist? Luo Zijun is not worthy of my love.

Four years later, I will look at the first half of my life. Compared with other urban emotional dramas, I still think this drama is very classic.

This drama was once praised as the inspirational growth history of independent women, but if we carefully taste the plot, the bitter taste arises spontaneously, and even some "farmers and snakes" mean it.

I think many people have forgotten the story inside, but it doesn't matter. As long as you remember Ma Yili's Luo Zijun (a divorced and down-and-out woman), Jin Dong's He Han (the god of all difficulties) and Yolanda's Tang Jing (the female elite in the workplace), that's enough.

I don't know if you think the current urban drama often gives people an illusion. Some plots are seriously divorced from real life, but they still win the audience's goodwill and sympathy.

Just like Luo Zijun in the play, she is just a 30-year-old woman with a child. How can she be loved by a male god like He Han standing at the top of the pyramid? It's not that a divorced woman at the age of 30 is not worth pursuing her own happiness.

But in the cruel reality, the truth is often the opposite, unless you are "special", or rich, or beautiful, or powerful, or you don't talk about ordinary people (stars) ...

Luo Zijun always has a leading role aura. In reality, a 30-year-old woman divorced and had children, but Luo Zijun just met He Han. Such stories may only appear in film and television dramas, and the probability of appearing in reality is the same as winning the lottery.

People are at a low ebb. Who will help you except your parents? As long as it doesn't hurt you, let alone He Han. In fact, it's hard to meet a good man like Lao Jin.

Why do modern urban dramas like to test love with friendship? Must love be used to test friendship?

This so-called female independent inspirational drama, not only the plot setting is really flattering, but also tramples on the bottom line of personality and morality. For example, Luo Zijun robbed her best friend's boyfriend.

Tang Jing, what a good best friend, helped her in all aspects of life, took care of her at work and helped her get out of trouble as soon as possible. It can be said that Tang Jing is one hundred percent good to Luo Zijun.

There is a touching detail in the play, which fully embodies Tang Jing's simplicity and kindness.

On the first day of work, Luo Zijun clearly knew that the road was very congested, and he had the cheek to trouble Tang Jing to pick her up. Luo Zijun and Tang Jing have been close friends for so many years, and they should know that the other party doesn't like driving, but Luo Zijun only considers his own feelings.

At work, Luo Zijun went to the company where her ex-husband Chen Heling worked. In order to prevent Lingling from bullying Zijun, Tang Jing threatened Lingling: "If you let my good friend be wronged here, then I can let you …".

Having such a best friend should be Luo Zijun's greatest luck and happiness.

But as a result, a sincere heart suddenly turned into a biting cold. One is a lover who has been in love for ten years (He Han), and the other is a girlfriend who has been "spoiled" by herself for many years (Luo Zijun).

I believe everyone is well aware of the lethality of this "double betrayal", which will be difficult for anyone to accept.

Some people say that everyone is an adult, and unmarried men and women are free. Why can't Luo Zijun be with He Han? Everyone has the right to pursue happiness. Love should pay attention to fate. It's yours. It's yours after all. No matter how others take it, they can't take it away.

For this problem, it is not a moral kidnapping, but a conscience condemnation.

As a woman, I have always been my best friend. With Tang Jing's intuition and keen sense, Luo Zijun and He Han could not have been unaware of their affair, but chose to trust them and didn't want to hurt them, especially Luo Zijun.

He Han's "betrayal" can be forgiven, because he has always been the kind of person that Tang Jing appreciates. He Han's mistake is that the person he likes is Luo Zijun.

For Luo Zijun, the most unqualified to betray Tang Jing, anyone can rob He Han with her, but you Luo Zijun can't!

With what?

You Luo Zijun grew up from marriage to poverty. Who never leaves and helps you all the way? You have been wronged. Who comforted you and guarded you? Who will stand up for you when you are bullied? ...

However, this drama cannot be completely denied. This plot involves some very real problems more or less. Although it was a TV series four years ago, these problems are still worthy of our in-depth consideration in today's society.

Such an excellent Tang Jing, why did He Han give up her and choose Luo Zijun?

To tell the truth, Luo Zijun is beautiful, but she doesn't see any advantage over Tang Jing. Why did He Han choose her?

I admire He Han very much, because he doesn't live in a rigid secular concept and comes and goes freely. He is very free and very smart. With his ability and wisdom, he can get whatever he wants.

This freedom sometimes becomes a justified excuse. For example, emotionally, when he was with Tang Jing, he said: Don't talk about the future, don't fall in love, and don't even meet the beautiful Vivian. If you are tempted, then talk about it. If you are not interested, you will leave. Can you be in love with Tang Jing for ten years?

Maybe getting close to Luo Zijun is just because of her beauty, which is a prerequisite for He Han to like Luo Zijun. As he said, she likes Vivian because she is beautiful, which is a very realistic answer.

How to describe the beauty of Luo Zijun in the play? Even Lao Jin fell in love with her from a distance. She belongs to the "delicate and gentle" type of women who are unique to Shanghai little women and make people feel distressed.

Compared with Luo Zijun, Tang Jing is slightly inferior.

As far as ability and work experience are concerned, Tang Jing is indeed better than Luo Zijun, but this kind of Excellence is a reduction for people like He Hanlai.

Why?

Because Tang Jing and He Han are the same person, and because they are too excellent and powerful, they can't see each other's "fireworks" when they get along.

Just like the pursuit of girls in universities, beautiful girls are pursued, beautiful but cold-blooded girls are rarely pursued, and unattractive but gentle, considerate or cheerful and lively girls are pursued.

Men are more inclined to women who are less capable than themselves. You can be literary, gentle and lively, but don't be too strong.

Although Luo Zijun can't compare with Tang Jing in work ability, way of doing things, independence and self-confidence, etc., in the relationship between men and women, the little Shanghai women written by Luo Zijun are extraordinary in temperament, soft in character, weak and coquetry, and are more like fireworks in women's lives, which men want. Tang Jing is inferior to Luo Zijun in this respect.

If there is no Luo Zijun, maybe Tang Jing and He Han will never be together, but this cannot be used as a reason for them to be together.

What is the essential difference between Tang Jing and Luo Zijun?

Tang Jing can cope with everything in life, even at work. She would rather suffer by herself than bother anyone unless absolutely necessary. For a so-called successful man like He Han, she can let go and never drag her feet, even if others are worthless to her, even if she has been entangled in love for ten years.

In this way, Tang Jing is the real heroine in my first half of life.

Luo Zijun, on the other hand, whether he Han or Lao Jin, one counts as one, and he can use it whenever he can.

Tang Jing and Luo Zijun, one who struggled in the workplace by her own ability but neglected her family, the other who brazenly looked for a meal ticket under the banner of "independent women". Although she is beautiful, she doesn't deserve my love.

So, does this TV series have positive energy?

The relationship between He Han and Luo Zijun, to put it bluntly, is more inclined to the relationship between "raising" and "being raised". He wants her beauty and personality, and she wants his stability and protection.

I didn't like the role of He Han from beginning to end. He is too "free" and too confident As a result, he fell in love with Luo Zijun, but even Tang Jing didn't have the courage to break up. He became an out-and-out "villain" and a hypocritical egoist emotionally.

Readers, do you recognize the love between He Han and Luo Zijun?

Some people say that Tang Jing asked for it. On the other hand, she personally matches her lover with her best friend. what do you think?