Mother-in-law prefers boys to girls. What does a clever daughter-in-law usually do to get rid of her troubles easily?

The feudal system in China was overthrown as early as one hundred years ago. Nowadays people are open and confident, but in fact, the remnants of feudal thought still exist today. The most obvious manifestation, the idea of son preference, still exists in a few areas and families, especially among the older generation.

The idea of son preference will have a negative impact on both girls and boys. For girls, it will make them feel inferior, lack love for a long time, and their personality will become extreme.

The same is true for boys. In front of girls, they will have a sense of superiority, feel superior, and have obvious male chauvinism. Therefore, when encountering a mother-in-law who prefers sons to daughters, a clever daughter-in-law must learn to do one thing to avoid worries. Li's husband's family is a typical patriarchal family.

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Li has been married to the Wu family for seven years. Because of economic problems, the couple can't afford a house, so they have to live with their mother-in-law. Mother-in-law's personality is relatively strong, and her position in the family is very high, and her husband is a person who listens to her mother from an early age, so the power in the family is basically in her hands.

Mother-in-law's thought is feudal, because the distance between Li and her husband's family is not very far, so as long as she has time, she will go back to her family. Every time I go back, my mother-in-law will be very unhappy and give her a look. Later, I simply told my daughter-in-law: If you marry our family, you will be our family. Don't always go back to your mother's house, as if we were abusing you. Not at all.

Li got pregnant in the third year after she married her family. Mother-in-law is very happy. She changed her previous strong personality, took good care of her daughter-in-law and children, refused to let her do any work, became a nanny herself, and often said, "Eat more sour and sour. If you have a fat grandson, you will be the hero of our family!"

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Unfortunately, when a girl was born, her mother-in-law's attitude immediately changed a hundred and eighty degrees. When the child was born, her mother-in-law didn't even want to hug her granddaughter. She was so angry that she took a taxi home directly from the hospital, leaving her newborn daughter-in-law and granddaughter behind.

Later, the couple's economy was better. They bought a house by mortgage outside and lived separately from their mother-in-law. My mother-in-law hasn't been here once since she lived separately. Not since my granddaughter was born. On holidays, she never gives her granddaughter a red envelope or even a lucky money, which makes Li very unhappy. Isn't her granddaughter her own? In order not to make her daughter feel inferior, she is also unwilling to let her mother-in-law contact her granddaughter.

Because of the opening of the second child policy, Li and her husband have another child, and this time they have a son. My mother-in-law is happy from ear to ear. As soon as the child was born, her mother-in-law bought her more than 20 thousand gold locks and gave her a big red envelope of 8800.

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In addition to this "expense", the mother-in-law runs to her son's daughter-in-law's house every three days, bringing a big bag of clothes and milk powder every time, all for her baby grandson. I am very jealous of my granddaughter. My mother-in-law also said that she would come to live and help Li take care of the children. The couple were a little touched. Once my mother-in-law was eating watermelon with her grandson in her arms, and her granddaughter stood by and watched, saying to her grandmother, "Grandma, I want to eat watermelon, too. Give me a piece. " Grandma gave her a look and ignored her.

This scene happened to be seen by Li. She was so angry that she took her daughter out to buy watermelons. The daughter also inexplicably asked her mother, "Why did grandma give her brother watermelon instead of me?" Such questions almost brought tears to her eyes.

Li felt that this was not possible, so he discussed with her husband and said, "You must not let your mother-in-law stay, and you must agree that your granddaughter can't come to see her grandson when she is at home, otherwise her granddaughter will leave a psychological shadow. Li thinks that son preference is the cancer of feudal thought. She hopes her mother-in-law can treat her equally. Since her mother-in-law can't do it, she would rather not have this mother-in-law than let her daughter grow up in the shadow. "

Conclusion: Now it is a civilized society, both boys and girls are the same. If there is still a son preference in the family, we must resolutely oppose it. Just like the mother-in-law in the article, she prefers sons to daughters, regards her grandson as a treasure, but ignores her granddaughter and doesn't even want to look at it. The child is still young and may not know what this means. When children grow up, it will do great harm to both children, especially girls, who may be neglected at home since childhood, leading to personality defects and finally ruining their lives.

Therefore, a clever daughter-in-law must not let this idea continue in this family. Li's method is very good. In the future, my mother-in-law will come to see her grandson until her granddaughter is gone. Or simply, I strongly demand equal treatment for my mother-in-law, whether materially or in care, otherwise I won't let my mother-in-law see her grandson. After doing these things, there will be no worries in the future. If we can't do this, the girl's life may be ruined.