What are the interpersonal skills to protect yourself?

0 1 When talking with people, you must wait for others to finish before interrupting others, which will easily lead to unnecessary misunderstandings and contradictions.

Smart people don't talk secretly, but listen before thinking, and then express their opinions.

Learn to hang polite expressions such as "thank you", "sorry", "you're welcome" and "never mind". People get along with each other in the end, not by face value, but by character. Language civilization is a person's best "educational business card". People who often say "thank you" are more affectionate and grateful. And the sentence "it doesn't matter" is more tolerant and open-minded to "turn the war into a jade." When others laugh at themselves, you should hold them backwards, not follow the trend. Many people like to "laugh at themselves" in this way to solve their difficulties. The subtext behind it is "to refute me and praise me by the way", not to make you laugh.

Ordering generously at the dinner table, don't casually say the details of ordering, which can best reflect a person's personality. If you hesitate and say "casually", you are easy-going on the surface, but in fact you give people a feeling that you have no opinion, no position or even are unwilling to participate.

Don't always bow your head and play group activities with your mobile phone at the party, because everyone is involved. If you keep playing with your mobile phone, it will make people feel that you are "socializing" forcibly, and it will also make others feel careless and embarrassed. Put down your mobile phone, communicate more, listen more and participate more, which is polite.

Never exchange secrets with friends. When you tell a secret to another person, it shows that you are in a passive position in interpersonal communication. Friendship bought by secrets can only be built on secrets. Once the secret is no longer a secret, friendship will inevitably break down. Trying to exchange secrets for friendship can only lead to one lesson.

Always lift a finger, don't stand on tiptoe to help others, do what you can, don't hit your face fat, and try to be brave. This can't help you, and you won't get the gratitude of others. Instead, you will fall behind and complain. Being nice to you often will make people feel your sincerity and enthusiasm. Mastering proper limit will make your contribution more valuable.

Don't let yourself be a negative energy source. People's negative emotions are like a black hole, which absorbs the energy of people around them. No matter how good the relationship is, it will become "weakened" because it keeps sending you energy. Complaining about your own pain, grievances and misfortunes will only increase the pressure on others, but will not really solve the problem. Be a peaceful and positive person, and more people will be willing to approach you.

Try to talk to others, don't talk to others, don't chatter, and always take the lead in a conversation. An important communication principle in interpersonal communication: let others become the protagonist of the conversation. Learning to make excuses for others is the best strategy to release goodwill and win it.

10 Simple and clear refusal is more conducive to interpersonal communication than euphemism, and there must be clear self-boundaries. If you don't want to agree to the other party's request, you must simply and neatly refuse. Never use a vague attitude to find some euphemisms, which will delay others and consume yourself.

1 1 Don't make decisions for others. Everyone is independent, even if it is intimate, many things are not convenient to intervene. This is the boundary and tacit understanding between friends. You can give care and advice, but don't make decisions for others casually, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble to each other.

12 Keep your distance from your friends. Everyone has his own circle of friends, protected and doesn't want to be occupied by others.

Therefore, there is a hidden rule in interpersonal communication: you must keep your distance from your friends. Otherwise, a person's possessiveness is aroused, and the boat of friendship will turn over.

13 It's impolite to break other people's joy. When others are in high spirits and share their joy with you, you must follow their emotions.

14 The way to see a person clearly by replying to other people's news in time is nothing more than seeing the big and knowing the small.

15 does not show off its ability, but does not hide its strength. The foundation of a person's life is nothing more than two things: being a low-key person and doing high-profile things. 16 be wary of excessive kindness to others. There is a saying that I quite agree with: "There is no sudden goodness in this world, only other purposes and needs."

17 Remember that human nature has an AB side, and there is no absolute good or bad. In a peaceful situation, the human nature you see may be good. Once there is a conflict of interest, the undercurrent hidden under the calm sea will make you feel at a loss.

Pay more attention to everything, understand the goodness of human nature, and know more about the evil of human nature.

18 heart-to-heart communication should be slow, and breaking up with others should be quick. In interpersonal relationships, the most difficult thing to control is distance, and the most difficult thing to grasp is timing. Don't get familiar with people too quickly. See each other clearly, and then have heart-to-heart contact, which is self-protection. Don't be too obsessed with breaking up with others. .

19 know how to repay long-term feelings.

Compared with helping others, when you trouble others, you will make others feel needed.

This psychological satisfaction will make them more willing to help you. The connection between people is precisely caused by mutual troubles. Making yourself "troublesome" will be more popular.

2 1 Interpersonal communication is informal, so don't be too sensitive.

True temperament is more popular than careful calculation.

Although there are thousands of rules in interpersonal communication, the core principle is that you should enjoy the happiness brought by interpersonal relationship.

Instead of suppressing yourself and wronged yourself everywhere. Live a true temperament and live comfortably, which is the real social master.