My boyfriend is a cancer. How can I coax him when he quarrels with me? ..... urgent

I don't know what kind of cancer you met, but they are basically divided into two categories: one is gentle and kind, which doesn't give people a sense of oppression at all, and the other is awkward and picky, which makes people feel "difficult".

But no matter which kind he belongs to, when you really go deep into each other, you will find that his character is uncertain and unpredictable. He is sometimes gentle and considerate, sometimes indifferent, sometimes amiable, and sometimes harsh and unreasonable. However, as long as you are a cancer man, you must have a gentle and sensitive heart. He is changeable, not because of his personality, but because his mood is too easily influenced by external things. It is not easy to really understand him.

Protecting yourself is the instinct of cancer. He rarely lets you know too much about him at once, and rarely reveals his emotions or feelings naked. He instinctively protects his fragile and affectionate heart, so you should give him a lot of security. Cancer men are mostly shy and afraid of being rejected. Even when he pursues you, he tries to act as if he is not pursuing you.

When he calls to ask you out, he seldom cuts to the chase immediately. He always talks to you for a long time, and then goes around a few times before saying, "I heard that there is a good new Italian food." Do you want to eat together? "

Cancer's pursuit is not aggressive, and her attitude is always gentle. However, if you really have something to do, or don't want to go out that day. The way you refuse him must be tactful, otherwise, you will probably hurt him. When he is upset, there may be two reactions. One is hiding in the shell like a hermit crab, and the other is biting people with pliers like a big crab.

Cancer man is very concerned about the respect of others. If you are a careless girl, you may often wonder why he suddenly pulls a face. He is too sensitive. A contemptuous look in your eyes or a joke may make the cancer lover who finally got up the courage suddenly hide in the shell. I'm afraid it will take a lot of effort to get him out bravely again.

If you are an impatient girl, the way cancer pursues may make you a little impatient. He may call you several times a day, have dinner with you in the evening, take a walk with you after dinner, and then take you to his house to show you all his awards, photos and collections since childhood. After reading everything, it's time for you to go home. If you are also a shy and introverted person, you may have to repeat this program countless times. I sincerely suggest that if you really like him, you might as well take the initiative and give him a hint of "obvious" (really "obvious", otherwise the shy cancer man will still feel uncertain). Your relationship will progress rapidly. You will soon see his passionate and lingering side.

It is the only way to be gentle with sensitive and emotional cancer men.

When your relationship reaches a stage and his feelings for you are getting deeper and deeper, he will feel uneasy. He will test you again and again, and he likes you to constantly prove your feelings for him. Don't be impatient, all this shows that he really cares about you. When he feels safe, he is the most considerate person.

When arguing, "crying" and "coquetry" are better ways. Few men in Cancer can lose their temper with a pair of tearful eyes. Reconciliation can be achieved quickly, and it is often won without fighting.

Don't yell at lost face with a straight face, which will often do more harm than the original discord. He will think that you don't respect him and love him. It may happen frequently that you change from plaintiff to defendant. Cancer is hard to please when it is masculine. Please don't ask for trouble

Marrying a cancer husband is a relaxed and happy thing. First, he is a man with a family and likes to do housework, but don't cross your legs and watch TV in the living room when doing housework. This will hurt his heart too much. Please look at him with gentle and grateful eyes. He will work hard. He values money very much. Most cancer men are much more interested in making money than spending money, because money often gives him a sense of security. He is not stingy, but he won't like you spending money on worthless things. If you spend a lot of money on fashionable accessories, he will feel a little wasteful. He would rather help you buy a diamond, because diamonds can at least "preserve value". For him, "sense of value" is very important, and you'd better cultivate your correct concept of spending money.

That's right. Don't throw away his old things. For the nostalgic Cancer, an old book or a broken alarm clock may be priceless. I know that many men in Cancer have a hobby of collecting, some collect antiques and some collect matchboxes.

Telling people the source of his collection is a great pleasure for him. You'd better share his hobbies. If you are really not interested, at least don't nag and nag when he repeatedly moves those "old things" out for appreciation.

Recalling people, things and things in the past is a kind of enjoyment for him, and it is also a habit that can't be changed all his life. Actually, you should be happy. For nostalgic him, you may be more valuable as you get older! Many cancer men are attached to their mothers. A gentle mother may be the biggest reliance in his growth. In the course of your communication, you may hear him mention "My mother …" from time to time.

Don't be unreasonable, and don't deliberately sing the opposite. Smart, you'd better not create problems with your mother-in-law. You should respect your mother-in-law and let him teach you how to take care of your crab. Isn't that turning resistance into help? Occasionally, you may feel a lack of accomplishment, because cancer men usually take care of themselves too well. Almost all the crab men I know are polished leather shoes, and the lines on shirts and trousers are very flat. They are usually better at housework than their wives. If you help him do these things enthusiastically, he may think that you are not fast enough and not good enough. Don't be angry, be happy and relax! However, you should always praise his ability and always show that you are willing to serve him. You will live a relaxed and happy life.