In the name of people: Is Liang Lu 10-year-old husband worthy of sympathy?

Love interwoven with desire, because it is not "pure", is often difficult for love to play its essential role of "fulfilling life". On the contrary, it will make people unconsciously fall into desire in the name of love, such as Liang Lu in In the Name of Man.

Liang Lu used his family relationship to suppress Qi Tongwei, and finally let him propose to himself in front of the whole school on the playground, but Qi Tongwei used their marriage relationship to develop his career.

There is no doubt that this is a very cruel blow to Liang Lu.

So, does Liang Lu deserve sympathy? Her experience makes people feel sad, but she is not a "role" that should be sympathized with.

In a sense, as far as the emotional tragedies of Liang Lu and Qi Tongwei are concerned, Liang Lu's "sadness" in love is the result of her being driven by her own "desire" and indulging in "self-satisfaction".

Why do you say that?

Thousands of years ago, Zhuangzi pointed out that "the feeling of sadness and joy, the desire for interests" is innate. In a moderate range, "lust" is natural and excessive. When people's greed meets "lust", people themselves are easily "sojourned" and then become "tools" to satisfy greed. At this time, people are trapped by desire, thinking because of desire, there is no so-called subjective rationality, let alone the real happiness brought by rationality.

The more "greed", the more "lust" makes people restless.

Having said that, Yan Xiaoer just wants to emphasize one point: if a man is a "purpose", then love is a "tool" to make a "man" perfect, and this relationship cannot put the cart before the horse. Love that can really please people will never put "personal gains and losses" in the first place, but focus on "achieving each other."

Next, Yan Xiaoer will analyze the "sadness" of Liang Lu's love in Taking in the name of people from the perspective of China's philosophy, starting with the "restriction of lust on people" of Taoist Zhuangzi, hoping to bring some thoughts and enlightenment related to life attitude.

1, Zhuangzi: Excessive "lust" is in danger of going against customers. Zhuangzi explained the relationship between "human" and "lust" in detail. On the one hand, he affirmed the innate relationship between "lust" and people, on the other hand, he saw the difference between people's excessive "lust" in their study and life the day after tomorrow and its true colors, and then warned the world that excessive "lust" was in danger of going against the customer.

Zhuangzi once said, "The ancients externalized and internalized, while the present people internalized and did not externalize". In the past, people were pure, peaceful and calm in heart, which changed from time to time due to external factors, moved with the times and followed the Tao; Nowadays, people's emotions are fluctuating, and they are easily influenced by external things and become uncertain. This state makes people feel that they are enslaved or even "parasitic" by foreign objects.

To some extent, "emotion and desire" is one of the "tools" to help us maintain inner stability and realize a complete life. And "people" is the service object of "tools", that is, the purpose. The result of the purpose is naturally "the perfection of human beings".

As the western philosopher Kant said:

Man is actually rational, so he exists because he is an end, not a tool of this or that will.

However, on the surface, the pursuit of sensory satisfaction will lead to excessive development of people's feelings and desires, and people will gradually become slaves of this or that unsatisfied will, fighting for desires and foreign objects, and finally become obese, while their real self will almost suffocate.

Generally speaking, this state is that people lose themselves in material desires, and in the end, they have lost their "initial heart". This is also the main reason why some people live a poor and happy life in a mean alley, while others live in a cage of a rich family.

2. Liang Lu's self-deception is pathetic. Regarding Liang Lu and Qi Tongwei in in the name of people, she once beautified her "suppression" of Qi Tongwei into a test of Qi Tongwei and his girlfriend Yang Chen.

After a series of "repression" that almost made him desperate, Qi Tongwei had to "bow down" to Liang Lu. In front of the whole school, he knelt on the playground and proposed to Liang Lu.

Liang Lu thinks that the way she pursues Qi Tongwei in the name of "testing" is a "counterattack" to hurt her and abandon her ex-boyfriend. After all, she made such a proud man bow down to plead with himself.

Ask for what? Propose!

At the same time, she also thought that she could get the love of this man who bowed his head in front of her "power".

However, she was abandoned.

Objectively speaking, Qi Tongwei regarded their marriage as a "pedal" to realize her ambition from the beginning, and here, she was horribly indifferent to Liang Lu, which was also caused by Liang Lu's "selfishness". This is Qi Tongwei's objective abandonment of Liang Lu.

Subjectively speaking, Liang Lu was abandoned by Qi Tongwei who loved her in her imagination. In fact, she has never had Qi Tongwei's "love", let alone abandoned it. The irony of self-deception is obvious at this point.

Why did Liang Lu, who has a good background, good face and good temperament, come to this step? Because she has already lost her "initial heart" in "love".

The love of others will never be "tested" by a third party. The so-called "test" is just a smoke bomb of "grabbing", which means "self-satisfaction".

On Zhuangzi's and Kant's interpretation of "man" in the true sense: "man" is not and should not be a tool of "various wills".

When a person gets deeper and deeper in order to satisfy some of his desires, no matter what "noble" name is used as a smoke bomb, when she does something that "hurts others and harms herself", this person has already become a sad existence of "being enslaved and living in a foreign land".

Liang Lu's sorrow is not only that she regards her lust, possessiveness, competition and revenge as love. She thought she was controlling Qi Tongwei's life, but she was actually "controlled" by her own desires, and she was actually used by Qi Tongwei.

Her sorrow also lies in that when Qi Tongwei abandoned her, she only felt "unlucky", but she didn't know that she was not only the culprit of her tragic ending, but also the culprit who shaped Qi Tongwei's growing addiction to power and desire.

3. Love is perfection and achievement, often "not seeking self-satisfaction". Therefore, Liang Lu loves Qi Tongwei more than himself. Her initial intention is to "seek love", but she doesn't know that love is nourished by "perfection" and "achievement". The purer the love, the more "not seeking self-satisfaction".

What is wonderful in in the name of people is not only the battle of wits between the guardian and the greedy, but also the love of human nature. Friends who haven't seen it strongly recommend going here to see it. This is a very good work.

Yan Xiaoer always feels that "love" is too smokeless if it is not mixed with some "ups and downs" related to human nature. "Perfect love" appears more in idol dramas, while love in our real life is often intertwined with desire.

When we are young, we tend to regard the physiological impulse brought by hormones as pure love; As adults, when we meet, we will habitually consider each other with the thinking of weighing the pros and cons, and then look forward to a "love" that seeks advantages and avoids disadvantages.

True love is rare, and no amount of hormones and careful choices are the decisive conditions for us to meet "true love".

Because true love itself is really hard to get, it may start in intoxicating hormones and take shape in seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, but in the end, it will definitely put aside the "physiological impulse" of hormones and the utilitarian heart of "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages" and become the real pleasure of our existence as human beings.

Love is not a desire, and people should not be a tool of desire. Personal perfection is the "purpose", and "love" should be a "rare tool" to accomplish this "purpose". You can experience the logic.

References:

New Theory of Laozi and Zhuangzi, Moral Metaphysics-Kant, in the name of people and other TV dramas.

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