What constellations are not good at talking and can only be more successful if they learn to "fit in"?

What constellations are not good at talking and can only be more successful if they learn to "fit in"? Capricorn is a very patient person in real life, and also the most patient person among the twelve constellations. They are safe and reliable, because enlightenment is serious, and they can often win the trust of others. They also pay attention to the principle of honesty in dealing with people and never play tricks. I believe they can make a small world by their own efforts. Similarly, they are also the loneliest of the twelve constellations and extremely insecure, so they can build a maintenance wall for themselves, and they can't get out by themselves and others can't get in. There is resistance to everything outside. We all know that they are all the best constellations in disguise, and the surface is calm, but in fact, there are undercurrents in their hearts. Bury all your feelings and thoughts in your heart, even if the level is strong, you can't show it. Wizards are usually lonely, but dear Capricorn, in such a buried land where everyone actively shows their world, the outside world can't find your light.

Until college, she was no longer the quiet girl who could be recognized and liked by others in high school. Here, the teacher can't bear to remember every student's name, even his counselor and director haven't seen it several times. Capricorn's Li is responsible, and he also expects his ability to be reflected now. Too strong and too weak divergent temperament made him deeply worried. If he wants to be better than others and can't show his level, he will be more and more worried, so it will be difficult to experience other beautiful things, which will lead to psychological conflicts. So, how is Capricorn's "anti-social media" character caused?

First of all, because of shyness and strong self-esteem. This little embarrassment many years ago will still be remembered in my heart, and I have to turn it out again from time to time, and then I will be sentimental and enlarge these mentality, as if I have experienced it again. Xiao Zhao will be worried about answering questions in class for a long time, always afraid of not responding well and losing face in front of so many students, so the result of classroom teaching will seriously affect the final exam results. When we are together, we are all joking, but we absolutely dare not get along with Xiao Li. Sometimes we don't know what touched her for no reason, and then we ignore people when we talk to her. It is very likely that a sentence that is innocuous in many people's eyes has been magnified in her heart and she will explain other meanings herself. Capricorn is sensitive inside. They are sensitive and suspicious, care about others' opinions, and even distort others' opinions. That way, I get scared when I get along with others. I don't feel wrong if I don't communicate with people. It is not easy for me to increase my troubles and get hurt easily, so I have always closed myself up.

Second, the family environment has damaged the social media category. People who are often too well protected by their families will also have a certain lack of language expression skills. There are many voice calls between Xiao Zhao and his mother, as if his parents were accompanying him. Her parents are strict and spoil him. It is completely forbidden to go out with friends before entering the university. In their view, it will affect the exam results, so students have to study hard at home. Usually, when relatives get together at home, Xiao Zhao refuses to communicate, and they don't insist. It is better than anything to bring home a satisfactory report card. Xiao Zhao just needs to study and train, and the rest of his parents will help him make proper arrangements. Therefore, apart from his relatives, Xiao Zhao basically has no friends, and there is no intimate friend to say so. This has formed a kind of social media category is very small, and the interpersonal communication ability is gradually weakened, which will form a bad circulation system.

The other is lack of self-confidence and insecurity. Xiao Zhao seldom takes part in non-compulsory activities, so he is afraid rather than troublesome. If his subjective initiative is too strong, he will lack objective evaluation, always exaggerate the difficulty of this matter in speculation, question his own self-level cognitive ability, and unconsciously compare with others, resulting in an unconfident and unconfident psychological state. Therefore, when Capricorn encounters many difficulties in interpersonal communication, most of them can't let Yi Zhinan go up. They choose to avoid timidity, and they are always silent in public, giving people a feeling of indifference and seemingly difficult to get along with. In fact, it's just Capricorn's insecurity, a kind of maintenance for themselves, not that they are withdrawn.

Generally speaking, I also understand the main reasons of social phobia such as Capricorn. In that case, how should I change it? Nothing is formed in a day. We should gradually change the status quo. There is a word in psychology called "pure tactile effect". In short, we will love people or things they know more. The more times something happens, the more people like it. Usually find more friends to chat with, the key is not the specific content of chat, but the frequency of chat. The more you know each other, the more interested you will be, and then you will no longer resist communicating with others. I can go to some places where I can't avoid dealing with strangers, such as schools, and organize club teams. If I can't do it alone, I can find someone who knows me. With the promotion of good friends, I won't be so embarrassed and my fear will gradually fade. If you want to get rid of this social phobia, you need to start eating a small number of meals from an early age, and your familiarity will naturally be handy.

As we all know, dear Capricorn, I believe that what they have not touched still has its own beauty and will bring you endless surprises! We should learn to accept rather than escape. We have been looking for light, looking for warmth, giving ourselves a good chance to get rid of loneliness, becoming no longer afraid of groups, having a normal heart, our life will become more and more colorful, and our life path will become more and more successful!