Twelve strokes will kill the embarrassing chat.

Tip 1: After chatting with each other for three sentences, try to praise each other with SCP. Why do you have to talk to each other after three sentences? Because when you start boasting, you won't care too much. It's just that many people don't know how to praise. When praising others, you should follow the SCP rule, that is, compare emPower specifically. For example, if you want to praise the other person's good figure, just say "Wow, your figure is great", which is very common. At this time, you have to talk a few words to pave the way: "How do you usually exercise?" After the other person answers, you can praise from SCP, for example, praise from details: "Wow, you have a vest line." From the comparison, praise: "You are far worse than me. You can keep exercising for a long time, but I can't move a few times a year. " From empowering people to praising: "People who can be so self-disciplined will definitely do great things." Tip 2: The atmosphere of the chat is more important than the content. Sometimes it is inevitable that there will be awkward times. If you tell the truth at this time, you can relieve your nervousness very well. For example, Leah Dou was asked by the media: "Which father is better? Dou Wei, Li or? " Most people will either be embarrassed when they hear such a question, or they will turn their faces directly. However, faced with this insulting question, Leah Dou is not angry, crazy or stupid. She just honestly expressed her feelings at that time, "I really don't know how to answer." This answer has been well received by everyone. You know, the most important thing in chatting is not the content, but the atmosphere. What everyone remembers is that we all had a good chat that day, not what we said that day. Tip 3: When others speak, there must be positive feedback. When you tell someone a particularly interesting thing, the other person is absent-minded It's estimated that your enthusiasm for speaking suddenly went out. Chatting needs mutual encouragement. I heard nothing. It's all "weird" Too cold, too inhuman, too annoying. Use positive feedback, such as "Really?" "This is the first time I've heard of it" and "This is quite interesting". The more surprised your reaction is, the more the other person is encouraged to talk more. Tip 4: If you are chatting with a friend, you must praise her change. The friends we are talking about here have known each other for a long time, but they may not meet every day. If you meet occasionally, you must praise the other person for being different from before, which will make the other person feel that you have been paying attention to her from the past to the present. It must be remembered here: you can't perfunctory. You can change from a small appearance to a big career change, which is a good topic and can make chatting friendly. Tip 5: When the other person tells a story, ask "What happened later" and "What happened later" more, which will make the other person feel that you are very interested in what he said, rather than talking to yourself. Tip # 6: Don't draw conclusions for the first 10 minutes of the chat. When chatting for the first time, don't come to a conclusion without knowing each other. For example, "the people I met in Henan are extremely stingy", "people who eat a bowl of noodles for dinner must live a very low life" and "I can't understand that some people are actually Feng". You know that chatting like this will kill people, because the person sitting opposite you is probably from Henan. He likes noodles and Wang Feng for dinner. Tip 7: Ask more open questions and less closed questions. Asking closed-ended questions can easily become a topic terminator. For example, I am often asked by students: "Do you get up at four o'clock every morning, are you sleepy?" My answer is "not sleepy", so this topic can't go on. And if you change it to an open-ended question, "How do you get up at four o'clock every morning?" I will have many answers. It is precisely because some students asked such questions that I wrote an article to answer them. Tip 8: Look into each other's eyes and say thank you and goodbye sincerely. This is a skill that Zhihu netizen Yang Dabao said, which is very practical. No matter how small and transparent you are, as long as you have never let the other person down before, then, before parting, look into each other's eyes and say a sincere goodbye and thank you. With this move, the instant impression was pulled to 80 points. Tip 9: Ask about hometown, constellation and occupation, and quickly find similarities. Always remember in communication that similarities attract each other and differences repel each other. In communication, we must try to find out what two people have in common, including diet, occupation, dialect, local people, hobbies and so on. , but it is best to agree positively. For example, if the other person says that he is from Henan, we can say, "I know several people from Henan who have good personalities, and I heard that Henan is a big province in the college entrance examination, and it is particularly powerful to get in." Generally speaking, the other person will have feelings about this topic. In fact, after asking about the place of origin, constellation and occupation, there is still a useful sentence, "My best friend/classmate/colleague is from this place of origin/constellation/occupation", and then start with the advantages of a good friend to let the other person know that you have a preliminary approval for him. Tip 10: Quickly locate what happened to him recently. If you are with a friend who has a little knowledge and don't know how to open the topic, you can quickly mention an incident that happened to him recently. For example, when you meet an unfamiliar colleague in the elevator, you can say, "At the last brand launch, your PPT was very good, and my colleague said it was very exciting." Skill 1 1: When you package what you want to share with the other party as a secret to share your own things, adding a similar sentence "I didn't tell anyone about this, just told you" will immediately make the other party feel different from you. Secret 12: Be sincerely interested in others. Jennyyy, a netizen in Zhihu, said that the first point of good interpersonal relationship is to be sincerely interested in others. Take chatting as a beautiful interaction. When chatting with a person, you can find a different soul and a brand-new world. Twelve tricks will stifle awkward chatting 2 1. Note that the chat skills used in different occasions are naturally different. For example, at private parties, we can focus on some light and humorous topics, such as playing experience and self-deprecating. If you are in the company's annual meeting, you should focus on serious topics, such as work plan and future goals, which will not only make you happy and comfortable, but also help to increase your distance and avoid embarrassment. 2. Respect is the most basic principle of interpersonal communication, that is, to know how to respect each other. If you meet the opposite sex for the first time and ask them emotional things in order to find a topic, it will make the other person very disgusted, and secondly it will put the conversation in a dilemma. I suggest that everyone should learn to grasp the scale of speaking and know what to ask and what not to ask. 3. It is a common phenomenon to take care of each other. One side is talking in Kan Kan, while the other side is in high spirits. The main reason for this is that the topic is tasteless. It is suggested that everyone should find suitable topics according to each other's scenes and identities when chatting. If we are all students, we should start the dialogue from interest classes and exams, so as to improve the overall atmosphere. 4. Open-ended Questions During the conversation, some people habitually ask some closed questions, such as do you like swimming? The answers to such questions are generally short, such as like or dislike, which can easily make the conversation boring. I suggest that when you talk, you should try to focus on open-ended questions, such as what places do you think are particularly suitable for traveling in China, so that you can get to know each other better and keep the conversation going smoothly. 5, know how to listen to tell, listening is also one of the essential skills in conversation. If you are always interrupted or absent-minded when the other party is telling, it will make the other party feel disrespected. I suggest that you listen to each other's ideas as seriously as possible at this time, and respond appropriately when necessary to enhance understanding. 6. Know how to appreciate There is a saying: "In the depths of human nature, people are eager to be appreciated." This shows the importance of the word appreciation to each of us. It is suggested that after others have finished their opinions, they can express their affirmation and appreciation within a certain range, which can play a certain encouraging role, help to enhance their goodwill, and create a harmonious and beautiful atmosphere. 7. Ending a conversation gracefully also requires some skills. If you are too outspoken, it is easy for the other party to have a bad impression on you and then alienate you. So I suggest that everyone try to end with simple praise and blessings. I have a good chat with you now, and hope to have the honor to make an appointment again. Pay attention to safety on the way home, make the other person feel comfortable and avoid embarrassment.