Suffer humiliation and feed yourself, and what kind of pattern there is, what kind of fate there is.

Pattern refers to the internal layout of a person's vision, mind, courage and other psychological elements.

At the inauguration ceremony of the President of South Africa, Mandela invited three jailers who guarded him to watch the ceremony.

He also said with deep affection that he would never forget those years. It was his time in prison that taught him to control his emotions and how to decompose his pain. What's more, he stood up and paid tribute to the three jailers in full view.

Mandela's move made people present and people all over the world respect him, which not only made the white people who abused him feel ashamed, but also showed Mandela's extraordinary bearing and pattern.

Maybe you have heard the story that three workers were building a wall at the construction site and someone asked them what they were doing. The first man said grumpily, didn't you see the wall? "The second man said with a smile, we are building a tall building; The third man said with a big smile: We are building a new city.

Ten years later, the first man was still building a wall, the second man became an engineer, and the third man was the boss of the first two men.

It can be seen that a person's development is often limited to a small pattern. Therefore, for the game of life, the first thing to learn is not the skill, but the layout.

There is nothing weaker than water in the world, but nothing can beat water in overcoming difficulties. Is irreplaceable. The weak can overcome the strong, and the weak can overcome rigidity. No one in the world knows this truth, but no one will act according to it.

Therefore, the sage said that only when he can bear the humiliation of the whole country can he be called the monarch of the country; Only if you can bear the disasters and disasters of the whole country can you be qualified to be the master of the world. Positive words sound like negative words.

Laozi believes that people should be weak like water, and the following story illustrates this point well.

Emperors in the history of China love to go out for sightseeing, and the Ming Emperor Zhu Zhaohou is no exception. It's better to go out for fun or observe the people's feelings. On one occasion, Wu Zongnan went on a patrol and was accompanied by Jiang Bin, the prefect. He didn't know that Jiang Bin had always been rebellious, but the soldiers he led were all strong men in the northwest, all burly and kind. But fortunately, Qiao Yu, the minister of the Ministry of War, had already seen Jiang Bin's attempt, so he asked him to accompany hundreds of martial arts experts selected from Jiangnan.

During this period, Qiao Yu and Jiang Bin knew all about this, so they met and let the Boxer Rebellion compete with the nationalist army. These Jiangnan Wulin masters, although they look short and ordinary, are really masters. The nationalist army joined forces to truly know the strength of these people, and they repeatedly lost and fought. Jiang Bin, completely dumbfounded, never dare to plot. Here, Qiao Yu skillfully used the strategy of "combining rigidity with softness", quietly, and saved the day.

So, how to make good use of "combining rigidity with softness" in life? In fact, there are many such examples. We often see two people talk back because of a little thing, blushing and thick-necked, and don't give in to each other. Just think, what good can such an argument do? Even if a person is noisy on the surface, will the loser be convinced? It is very likely that two people will not talk because of this matter, and now it is a lose-lose situation! If one of them wants to open up and not quarrel with the other, what will he lose? When the other person's anger slowly dissipates and calms down, we can talk about things and talk calmly, and we can achieve better results. This should also be a phrase we often say, "Let's calm down and take a step back.

Therefore, as human beings, we should learn from water, because water has eleven characteristics worth learning, that is, purity, transparency, perseverance, principle, humility, tolerance, harmony, perseverance, courage, health and equality.