Reflections on meeting the unknown self

What do you feel after reading a famous book? Why not calm down and write your thoughts after reading it? How should I write my own thoughts after reading it? The following is my thoughts on "Meeting the Unknown Self" for reference only. Let's have a look.

The essay "Meeting Unknown Oneself" 1 is my first contact with this book, which was recommended by an old friend. This is a psychology book. I like the sentence inside best: "honey, there is no one outside, only myself." Many times, we pay more attention to others, but ignore ourselves.

This paper mainly tells the ups and downs of Ruo Ling, a female white-collar worker who graduated from a famous school, and her conversation with an old man, which teaches us to explore our own hearts, let us gradually know our own hearts, and let us get closer to our true selves.

The author tells the story from four aspects: body, emotion, thought and identity, and effectively puts forward targeted opinions. Through team counseling, individual healing, or practical experience, help solve various problems encountered in real life and further heal the heart. I can't predict the unknown self, so I can only use courage to solve the current problems and look forward to the unknown self and life. When things happen, look at yourself more, find reasons from yourself, and recognize your true self. I took a spiritual training course, and I still remember what the teacher said. The most important thing for people is to know themselves, discover themselves and explore the unknown themselves.

In fact, whether in books or in real life, we must believe: "There has never been a problem of disappearing in this world. When we encounter a problem, we must face it, deal with it, put it down and solve it. " If you finish reading this book, you may be more convinced that anything is really nothing compared with your own courage.

Many times, different people will have different ideas when facing problems, but the same thing is: successful people can often overcome their cowardice and have the courage to solve problems. I hope you can see this too!

These two weeks, through quiet thinking and recalling some scattered memories, I felt relieved and reborn at the same time. I have heard of this book for a long time, but I just started reading it in the last two weeks.

At first, I only read 50 pages a week. I added my understanding of the words in the book, some series and reflections on past memories, and combined some books and movies I have seen in the past with dialectical thinking methods and associations. I didn't expect to figure out something that I didn't understand in the past within a week, which made me feel relaxed and happy.

When I picked up the book again, I read the remaining 150 pages in one night, and found that the rest of the content actually coincided with my thoughts this week. This surprise made me grow a lot in half a month, and I began to be relaxed and confident, and I would not live to please others. Thanks to this book, I found my simple and happy childhood, and I also thank those who have hurt me and loved me, because happiness and pain have made me grow up. Pain is a straight ladder to maturity, which can stab my heart, and then let me learn to reflect and feel in adversity and loneliness. Pain may not last forever, but I believe that what will greet me will be a kind of maturity and happiness.

I have so many feelings just after reading the first book, and there are still four left, which I plan to finish in the next three months. For the first time, I have an expectation and yearning for my future life. I can't wait for the day when I meet my "unknown self".

Finally, thank those who happened in the most fragile and confused period of my life last year. Many people want to teach me that many things in the book belong to the same clan, just because their obsession and an inertial thinking at that time wrapped themselves too thick and didn't see their inner demands. Now I recommend this book to you. I think this book needs to be pondered page by page. If you haven't experienced some pains in life, you may understand what is described in the book, but at least it can make us feel relieved about life.

Life is actually a play. During the day, we play various roles and deal with all kinds of people, but we know that we are not happy. Only when night falls and a person sits quietly in front of the computer, that kind of confusion and loss makes us begin to reflect on what life is. Do we all live to please others? Foreign things can't make us happy. What we want is actually for outsiders to see, but we are not happy. There are many things that are meaningless. You can only have it if you use it, and you can only have it if you do it.

Comments on Meeting the Unknown Oneself 3 The book I want to recommend is Meeting the Unknown Oneself by the writer Zhang Defen. After reading this book, it is like having a wonderful physical and mental practice class, which is sobering; It's like finishing a difficult yoga. This book is actually an allusion to the author's own experience. She used the story of the protagonist to hint at her transformation process. In this process, she understood and dialyzed her life, which seems to be guided by an expert. In fact, she completely relied on herself to realize the dialogue with her heart, and finally found the strange and familiar self.

Several interesting experiments are shared in the book, which together illustrate a truth-the law of attraction. A person is full of happiness and positive energy, so good people, things and things will resonate with him and be attracted. Similarly, if a person always carries negative energy of pessimism and cynicism, it is not surprising that unlucky things often happen to him.

So how should we summon good things? First of all, what is our inner pursuit, or what is the pursuit of most people in this world? Nothing more than the pursuit of happiness, happiness, health, beauty, money, power and so on. But these pleasures are based on the outside. For example, the elderly pursue good health and are unhappy when they are sick; Men are unhappy when they pursue success in their careers and accomplish nothing; Women pursue a happy marriage, but divorce is not happy. People all over the world are pursuing happiness. Have they all come true? Why are there so few truly happy people? There is a saying in the book: the root of all our human suffering comes from our blind attachment and pursuit of things that cannot represent us without knowing who we are. Such as those mentioned above.

So what are we looking for? This book is summed up in three words: love, joy and peace (the "true self" with love, joy and peace). Love here is not narrow love, but selfless love without asking for return. Joy and happiness here are different. Joy comes from the heart, radiates from the inside out, is not attached to anything, and will not disappear because of the lack of external things.

So how to pursue "love, joy and peace"? Centering on the "true self", we constantly draw concentric circles outward, layer by layer, representing body, emotion, thought, identity cognition and so on.

The first concentric circle represents the body, which is different from our thoughts. Our thoughts are usually the past or the future, but the body and breathing are always present and the most direct, so what we have to do is to talk to the body and listen to the information sent by the body. Any exercise that can make you concentrate and live in the present can help you establish contact with your body. For example, running, brisk walking, swimming, Tai Chi, yoga and so on. Friends who don't like sports can try the simplest meditation and adopt abdominal breathing to connect the body with breathing.

Through the connection with the body, slowly, you will feel that your body, your heart, what you really pursue and need will gradually become clear, what you attract and summon will gradually follow you, or people and things with the same frequency will be attracted to you.

Of course, we need more and longer-term practice. We can't just stay in the shallow layer connected with the body, nor can we just rely on running and meditation, but we should develop to a deeper level. Concentric circles are outward, and the next layer is emotion. Emotion, like energy, surrounds and pulls us every day. There are indeed many people in this world who have been dragged away by their emotions all their lives. For example, the feeling of reading a book is often seen in the news. Similar to going to the noodle restaurant to eat noodles and finding that the price has increased, I cut the boss; Quarrel with people in the hospital, resulting in one death and one injury for the young couple; The novice mother threw her child to the fifth floor because her husband scolded her, and then jumped herself, and so on. These people just don't really become the masters of emotions. How to manage your emotions? I read in another book that people's emotions are closely related to cognition. The higher the cognitive level, the easier it is to manage emotions. Therefore, it is better to try to improve cognition simply by learning to control emotions. There are many ways, such as reading, fitness, meditation and so on. This book introduces a simple way to divide things in the world into three categories: "God's things", "others' things" and "our own things". We just need to do our own thing. For example, traffic jams are God's business, and you can't change them, so it's no use worrying about traffic jams. It is best to listen to music or breathe. For "other people's business", there is no need to change and try to interfere as little as possible. We should fully accept the fact that has happened, because the fact is the biggest and unchangeable. But if your mood is really affected, it is really the trouble brought by "your own business", then surrender to him, accept him, and don't resist. The more you resist, don't try to drive away the shadow in your heart, just bring in light to illuminate it.

Emotion is thought, identity, etc. , is an in-depth exploration of the unknown self.

Of course, in the pursuit of love, joy and peace, it will not be smooth sailing to achieve the unity of body, mind and spirit. There are too many temptations, obstacles, difficulties and thorns in the world, which can not be solved by running and breathing alone, and people's habits can not be established overnight. It is impossible to break a line just by reading a book or attending a reading sharing meeting. If you feel the need to know yourself again, you can read this book. I hope everyone can meet a better self.

From last night to this morning, it took me two or three hours to finish reading this book in one breath. Just a quick glance, of course. I read very fast, and a lot of content needs to be carefully understood and deeply understood in my spare time. This book is not as difficult as other books, but it is still difficult to fully understand and implement.

Meeting the unknown self is a spiritual practice book, a story of urban white-collar workers, which reveals the truth that we have never known. Who Are We? What do we need? How do we face it or get it? Everyone is chasing happiness, but there are so few happy people. Have we lost our way in the pursuit? Many times we don't review our hearts and thoughts. This hinders our spiritual growth and mental maturity.

After reading this book, there are several points that resonate with me in particular.

Since happiness depends on external things, once the situation or things that make you happy no longer exist, your happiness will disappear. Joy blooms from the inside out and comes from the heart, so once you have it, the outside world can't take it away. "

This book classifies what life pursues as: love, joy and peace. And the reason why we can't get it is because we have lost our true self. In my own simple understanding, it means "I can make it and give it to others". If I base my happiness and happiness on others, then this kind of happiness is unstable and uncertain, but I can make myself happy. This kind of happiness is lasting and stable, and people are ultimately responsible for themselves.

Just like sometimes, some people will think when they stop, they will be bored, and they will ask people out to play everywhere; Or pin your happiness and happiness on someone. If he smiles at me today, it will be sunny all day. If he ignores it, it will be cloudy all day. This kind of people who have emotional fluctuations from the outside to the inside usually have a hard life and basically have no happiness.

People who are responsible for their emotions can arrange their lives in a colorful way at any time without external interference. My good friend Jia once said to me: It is also an ability for a person to live without boredom. This sentence has a deep influence on me. Whenever I am bored alone, I will think: What can I do to change this state? Make yourself happy at the moment? When I gradually get rid of "from the outside to the inside", I will have the opportunity to look at myself and know what I need in order to gain the power of "from the inside out".

Because we have no connection with the source of our own life, we have lost the source of energy, so we constantly seek to gain energy. To make matters worse, compete with our compatriots for energy.

The explanation of energy struggle in the book is: controlling others, using power to override others, gaining their attention, recognition and love, or proving that they are good, right and superior. ...

Everything in the universe has some kind of energy with a certain vibration frequency, which is around us whether we can see it or not. Everyone has his own energy, which affects people, things and things around him invisibly. Similarly, we will attract people, things and things that vibrate at the same frequency around us. In other words, all the people, things and things around us are the result of our choices, and what affects our choices are the concepts, standards, beliefs and values we have accepted since childhood. I think what I need to do now may be not to be influenced by the negative energy of others. Although I still don't understand how to connect with the source of life and get the source of energy. But in recent years, the energy of its own specific vibration frequency has attracted people, things and things, both good and bad. Generally speaking, happiness is more than pain.

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Nothing can cause psychological pain. Pain comes from your explanation of things. What you create in pain is your explanation of what causes pain.

I got this idea not from this book, but from a spiritual course I subscribed to. This book requires us to be "sober and calm". When I first heard this idea, I really had a sobering feeling. Many times, what makes us sad, sad and angry is actually not caused by the thing itself, but by our views. Our views on this matter directly lead us to be happy, happy and sad.

You lost 100 yuan. If you think it doesn't matter, just losing two days of food money won't affect your life, then you won't suffer because of this 100 yuan.

If you think you can't accept it, then losing money will make you worry and affect your mood.

This ABC view can be used in all aspects of life. Many times, we just need to change our thinking or ideas, which can bring us completely different feelings. This method is very effective when we face pain.

Remember, it is not things that make us miserable, but our views on things.

The above points are some insights into "meeting the unknown self". Space is limited, and reading is just swallowed. There are many viewpoints in the book that I agree with. For example, unconditionally accepting children's emotions, caring for our bodies, healthy eating and energy vibration have created our world.

It is also particularly important that as long as you change yourself and your mentality, all external environments, including people, things and things, will change from your heart to your heart.

In the past, we always thought that change must be two people working together to find out and solve problems together. But I really don't need it. As long as we take that step first, we will find that many things will change with you.

Power is in our hands!