Who should I choose to marry for a long time?

What kind of person should you choose for marriage?

1, when talking about marriage, you should find the other half who is mentally suitable and has the same three views.

Among these three views, the ability to resolve emotions is particularly important. As the saying goes, the poor have tricks and the rich have conscience. Having no money is not the most terrible thing. On the basis of poverty, you are emotional and extreme. Girls with good family conditions should be careful when getting married. If you must get married, please see clearly the other person's mental maturity, especially whether his personality is extreme.

2, income is not afraid, but not lazy.

When many people talk about marriage, the man's income is very average, but it doesn't matter. Don't bully the young and the poor. It depends on whether he is focused, which represents the potential of his career. Whether the mood is stable or not, a stable mood represents that he can calmly find solutions and deal with interpersonal relationships when he encounters difficulties in his career, instead of being violent and cold-blooded. With such a person, the less internal friction and friction you have after marriage, the more energy and energy they have to do business, manage contacts and achieve higher achievements.

3, yellow gambling drugs can not be brought.

This kind of bankrupt, or lost his life, is definitely not needed, even if he coaxes a woman to make money. Including violent tendencies, self-mutilation, hurting each other, girls should never treat themselves as bodhisattvas to save men. There are many good men in the world. If you take a wrong step, you will get yourself into life! It may also bring trouble to parents and hurt the next generation, so stop it in time.

4. Look at his friends.

When a girl is in love, she will blindly and habitually rationalize her problematic behavior. Birds of a feather flock together. Look at all his friends around him, and you will know his true level and outlook. If you have a high-level friend around you, it will be more objective to ask him to take a look for you. In addition, if people around you don't like your other half, he is probably not the right person.

5. It depends on whether his parents are emotionally stable and how the family atmosphere is.

Marriage is not a matter for two people, but a combination of two families. This does not mean that two families will interfere in your married life. His relationship with his parents is his relationship with society. He gets along with you as well as family. We must find a harmonious family. Everyone respects each other and won't quarrel often. It will make it much easier for you to run a family relationship after marriage.

6. See if he has a great affinity with family of origin.

If he likes to let his parents intervene whenever something happens, then he is not independent in spirit. Then what you are facing is that both parents will get involved in big and small things after marriage, so if there is a contradiction after marriage, if it is only the contradiction between the two of you, it will be easy to solve. But his spirit is not independent. Your contradiction has become a PK between you and his family, and finally it has evolved into a war between the two families. Generally speaking, the characteristics of the rich second generation and Ma Baonan are the same, which is too sticky with the family background.

7. Seek inward.

When talking about marriage, when making various demands with each other, we should also reflect on ourselves and what we can give each other. If we are all people with serious blx, emotional instability, princess disease and shortcomings, how can we expect others to be full of advantages? I hope the other person is honest, but I don't like his lack of interest. I want him to make more money, but I hate that he has no time to accompany us. Try to find a piece of paper and write down your needs. You may find many contradictions. What should you do? Make a choice according to the life you want.

8. Your three views must be combined.

How to see if the three views are consistent? Let me start with the following six points:

(1) Loyalty to marriage.

(2) Career planning for the future.

(3) fertility issues, such as when to have children and who to bring them.

(4) Children's future education, if there is a conflict in parenting concepts, how to deal with it and who to listen to.

(5) Distribution and control of family property.

(6) How to allocate housework in the future.

It doesn't matter what he thinks about the above six points. What matters is whether his views are consistent with yours. If there are more than three differences, please think twice.

9. Where can I find a good man?

Wait for him, it is better to take the initiative. I am single because I don't take falling in love as a career to plan my life quality for the next few decades. If you regard finding a marriage partner as a career project, you will actively expand your circle of friends, submit your resume and interview all kinds of possibilities. Therefore, it is not in vain that many people try their best to find Gao Fushuai.

It is a good thing that girls are not beautiful or excellent, and many excellent girls marry the wrong person. If you can find someone who understands you, can support each other and get better and better with you, it is really much more important than your own efforts. So don't resist that excellent boys are good to you, try to improve yourself, and at the same time try to find someone who can warm you and cure you, and you will enjoy the bonus brought by marriage.

10, the most important thing is to take marriage seriously.

No matter how old you are, no matter how your family urges you, how many people in your circle of friends are married, and you are the only one who is not married. Don't get married just to get married. Marriage is not playing cards, shuffling cards will pay a huge price. If you marry someone you really love, and you are willing to make yourself better and nourish this relationship for him, then congratulations on meeting love.